Kindness. Today I was thinking about kindness and what a simple but amazing weapon it can be. I was going to talk about how we can all be more kind and how we can start our days out right with being kind. But then I realized that Tom would bust me for being a total hypocrite. To quote my daughter Katie "It's not that you're unkind in the morning it's more that the morning is unkind to you."
Before I dramatically describe my aversion to mornings I will state that overall I'm a happy and friendly person. I pride myself on being able to communicate positively and build great friendships. I smile often. I love making people happy and was even once voted "Most likely to be happy" by my high school peers. So, maybe after reading this you will just know that you might not want to hang out with me as I'm waking up!
I wake up and feel like I haven't gotten enough sleep and then I have to summon up the maturity to not be a complete and total jerk to my family. I often fail. I really do suck at the whole morning thing. I swear it feels like the covers are about 50 pounds, the air temperature in the room outside my covers must be cold enough to allow snow to fall at any minute, and my eyes have suffered a malady that doesn't allow them to open, alternatively, more than a centimeter before they forcefully slam shut again.
How can it be morning already? I have a shirt that says "But first, coffee." And it's true. I need that cup of coffee. The coffee isn't even the really important part but I think it is just knowing that I can have a moment, just a moment, to pause all of the needs/wants/expectations that are surrounding me.
I sort of have this mental image of waking up being the same as wandering into a forbidden area of a forest and looking up to see the local residents surrounding me in a circle, hands on pitchforks. "What are you doing here?" their suspicious eyes ask me. Some even have spears pointing at me - and it's just me, in the middle of the circle, warily looking back at them while I clutch my cup of joe. But with every little sip of that warm java fortification, a morning menace disappears from the circle. A few more sips and circle is gone and I settle into the morning around me. Now I can actually talk to my children without making a face like their words are Hollywood style spot lights shining into my eyes. Now I can actually sign that forgotten permission slip, write a random note to a teacher. Now I can discuss storm troopers and light sabers in the serious tone they deserve.
It's all a little silly, this morning aversion, I will admit. But I'm pushing 43 years old and I've sucked at morning as an activity for truly as long as I remember. I don't think it's going to change. My poor best friend from high school used to come pick me up sometimes before school and she would march into my room and drill sergeant me out of bed. She would lecture me and yell at me in a continuous verbal barrage until I dragged my sloth-like self out of bed with what I can only imagine was a very evil eye pointed at her.
Why does the world have to start so early?! What's wrong with you people who like to wake up, go to they gym, run errands,...all before 8 am? That's just not right...;) I've tried. There is a benefit to exercising early in the day and, yes, it is nice to have errands taken care of early on. But you know what I love to do the most early in the morning? Sleep. And then coffee.
So yes, I will wake up in the morning and do as proper humans do. I will (usually) stifle my urge to whine about being tired, the cruelty of the morning, and the injustice of alarm clocks. I will help the kids get their stuff together, make sure they have food in their bellies before setting off, and make a game plan for the day with Tom. I will even get myself showered, dressed and off to a productive day of work. But first, coffee!
And here's your happy news for today:
Science says Coffee Is Good for you!
So drink up and enjoy 13 benefits! Yay for science!
Coffee Love Story
A cute little vimeo movie project. Coffee, love, adorableness ensues. 2+minutes of cuteness.