So many days have passed since I last wrote and I've wanted to hop on here and write but I'm full of angsty emotions that are pinging around my brain. So we all know that I didn't want the president we now have in office. But, as I told my kids, it doesn't always work out how you want and yet America continues on as great with potential as always. It's an amazing country and we are beyond blessed to call it home. Our history is built on pendulum swings. History is not a smooth line, it's a mash up of moments, people, ideas, success, failure, belief, change, love, hate, kindness, but never stillness.
And, no, I don't think we are doomed as a nation. But I am worried. I worry when after the march we saw yesterday, I see white women saying "What do you mean we don't have equal rights? Of course we have equal rights, we all live in America where all you have to do is work hard and you will succeed..." To quote our current president: "Wrong." While that is exactly how it should be, and while that is exactly how we would have it, it just isn't true for everyone in our wonderful, and still evolving, nation. Women have made incredible progress in this nation, but remember it was only my grandma's generation of women that got the right to vote. Only my mother's generation that could finally get their own credit card without a man signing for it, and only my generation that a woman could not be fired for pregnancy. Progress is measured in centuries. Our still relatively young nation has only begun to advance in equality for all when you take the long view of history.
I am not dumb, I am not naive, and I am not out of touch for recognizing that we have more progress to achieve in many areas, not the least of which is women's rights. And for people of color the progress is even harder. Again, to those white women who I hear dismissing the fight for rights they feel we have already achieved, I respectfully disagree that all American women are treated equally everywhere and I know that those of color have even more challenge. I worry that these women who make this statement about everyone having equal rights then feel that my acknowledgement of this inequity is somehow me trying to say they are racist, sexist, or at a disadvantage themselves. That's not what I am saying.
Acknowledging that inequity exists, especially for people of color is just that; an acknowledgement. It is not an accusation. It is not a judgement or a holier than thou chastising. It is an acknowledgment that we can do better. We must do better. We will do better. That is America. We change. We grow. We continue to strive to fulfill the promises of the past and future.